One of the keys to living the life we dream of is not allowing certain things to stick to our hearts and minds, while at the same time, not jettisoning what has true and lasting worth. I heard someone say, “We remember things we need to forget, and we forget the things we need to remember.”

All of us have been to a memorial service for someone we admired or have visited the many memorials that make places like Washington D.C. so fascinating. Of course, anniversaries and holidays, like July 4th, have much the same function. They act like Velcro for certain values, reinforcing our commitments and reminding us of what is significant and noble.

But often we make memorials to offenses or failures and each time we visit these monuments; they grow bigger and become more entrenched. Memorials, whether they are good or bad, only remind us of the past, they don’t change it; their only power is in shaping the future.

Teflon Coated
You may recall as I do that Presidents Reagan and Clinton were referred to as being “Teflon Coated.” Controversies swirled around them, and yet they seemed to survive unscathed. There are things that shouldn’t stick to us either, otherwise, like an old vinyl record with a scratch, our mind plays the same memory over and over. It reminds me of the husband who confided to a friend that every time he and his wife got in an argument she became “historical.” His friend responded, “You mean hysterical, don’t you?” “No,” he replied, “She always brings up everything I’ve ever done wrong!”

The reason we need Teflon Hearts and Velcro Values is that life’s challenges, regardless of how devastating they might be, are a pause, an interruption, maybe even a setback, but the story isn’t over. Like the popular radio newsman of the ‘70s and ‘80s, Paul Harvey, who would share his inspirational and memorable anecdotes called, “The Rest of the Story,” so our story is unfinished, so long as we don’t keep pushing “replay.” Perhaps the reason he told these stories, which always came with a surprise ending, was revealed when someone asked him the secret of his success? He simply replied, “I get up when I fall down.”

The Phoenix
Like many words in the English language, “Phoenix” comes from Greek. However, the Persians, the Egyptians, the Chinese, the Hebrews and the Romans all had a mythology of the Phoenix. A fabled bird that burns to ashes, but out of the ashes an egg is brought forth, from which a new Phoenix is born.

In both the 1965 film and the 2004 remake, “The Flight of the Phoenix,” a group of oil drillers crash land in the desert and wait, with dwindling supplies, to be rescued. One survivor, an aeronautical engineer, proposes that they build a plane out of the spare parts left from the crash and fly out of the desert, which most of them agree is preposterous.

But often, passively waiting to be rescued is the more foolish strategy. Whereas, taking stock of what we have, even if it is in disarray, namely our values and what we can do with them, rather continually rehearsing the odds against us. Then realizing, we’ll never feel our way into acting, but instead we must act our way into feeling and move forward to rebuild.

That is the only way we will ever gain the altitude we need to fly beyond where we are.

Eric Wright
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Eric Wright is an innovative leader, dynamic speaker and published author. He turns complex principles into simple and practical life applications. For over 25 years, Eric has taught leadership and management seminars on four continents, served on various economic development and visioning councils, and authored hundreds of published articles and three books.

As President of Publishing at SpaceCoast Magazines, Eric oversees the production of business and lifestyle journals, along with numerous specialty publications. Through these journals, Eric offers entrepreneurs and business leaders a trusted voice connecting communities across Florida and the US.

Eric and his wife, Susan, live in Indialantic, Florida, and have three married sons and four grandchildren.